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General Health Information from Iluka Medical Centre, Iluka WA

Depression in Men:
Myths, Warning Signs
and When to Seek Help

Depression does not always look like sadness. In many men, it may show up as anger, irritability, overworking, fatigue, withdrawal, physical symptoms or increased risk-taking.

Many men keep working, meeting responsibilities and appearing "fine" on the outside while struggling internally. Understanding how depression can show up differently in men can make it easier to recognise when support may be needed.

Quick answer

Depression in men can appear as anger, stress, sleep problems, fatigue, physical symptoms, loss of interest, withdrawal, increased alcohol or substance use, or risky behaviour. If symptoms last more than two weeks or affect work, relationships or daily life, it is worth speaking with a GP.

Myth vs Reality

Myth: Real men do not get depressed.
Reality: Depression is a medical condition, not a personal weakness. Stigma can stop men from recognising symptoms or asking for help early.
Myth: Depression always means sadness and crying.
Reality: Some men experience low mood, but others mainly notice irritability, anger, frustration, feeling on edge, sleep changes, fatigue or physical symptoms.
Myth: If you are still working, you cannot be depressed.
Reality: Some men continue meeting responsibilities while struggling internally. Staying constantly busy, overworking or avoiding downtime can sometimes be a way of not facing difficult feelings.
Myth: Depression is only about mood.
Reality: Depression can affect the body, behaviour and thinking. Men may notice headaches, digestive symptoms, chronic pain, poor concentration, sleep problems, increased alcohol or substance use, withdrawal, gambling or risk-taking.
Myth: Asking for help is weakness.
Reality: Seeking help is a practical health step. A GP can help assess symptoms, check for physical contributors, discuss treatment options and connect you with appropriate support.
Myth: Medication is the only treatment.
Reality: Treatment can include psychological therapy, lifestyle changes, medication, support with sleep and alcohol reduction, or a combination approach. The right plan depends on the person and the severity of symptoms.

Warning signs to watch for

  • Persistent irritability, anger or aggression
  • Feeling constantly stressed or on edge
  • Loss of interest in usual activities
  • Working excessively or staying constantly busy
  • Increased alcohol or substance use
  • Risky or reckless behaviour
  • Headaches, back pain, fatigue or digestive symptoms
  • Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
  • Withdrawing from friends or family
  • Sleeping too much or too little
  • Thoughts of self-harm or suicide

When to seek help

Speak with a GP if symptoms last more than two weeks, affect work or relationships, interfere with sleep or daily functioning, or lead to increased alcohol use, risky behaviour or withdrawal from family and friends.

Urgent support

If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 000. If you are having thoughts of suicide or self-harm, contact Lifeline 13 11 14, Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636, or MensLine Australia 1300 78 99 78. These services are available to support people in Australia.

What treatment can involve

  • Talking therapy such as cognitive behavioural therapy, problem-solving therapy or behavioural activation.
  • Medication such as antidepressants may be considered depending on symptom severity, preferences and medical history.
  • Lifestyle supports such as exercise, sleep routines, reducing alcohol, stress management and social connection.
  • Combination care where a person may benefit from a mix of practical strategies, therapy and medical support.

Recovery time varies. Some people notice improvement within weeks, while others need longer-term support. Your GP can help review progress and adjust the plan if needed.

Frequently asked questions

Signs can include irritability, anger, fatigue, sleep problems, physical symptoms, loss of interest, withdrawal, increased alcohol use, risk-taking, poor concentration or thoughts of self-harm.
Stress is often linked to specific pressures and may improve when the pressure eases. Depression tends to persist, affects several areas of life and may include changes in sleep, energy, interest, concentration, body symptoms or thoughts of self-harm. If unsure, talk to your GP.
A man should consider seeing a GP if symptoms last more than two weeks, affect work or relationships, interfere with sleep or daily functioning, or include thoughts of self-harm or suicide.
Your health information is confidential. You do not generally need to tell your employer about mental health treatment unless you choose to or there are specific safety or work capacity issues that need discussion.
Treatment can be tailored. For some people, therapy, exercise, sleep support and practical strategies are appropriate. For others, medication may be recommended. Your GP can discuss benefits, risks and alternatives.
Self-care can help, but depression is a health condition that often improves faster with appropriate support. Seeking help early can reduce the chance of symptoms becoming more severe.

Taking the next step

If you recognise these signs in yourself or someone close to you, consider booking an appointment with your GP. The first step does not have to be dramatic. It can simply be saying:

"I have not been myself lately, and I want to talk it through."

Iluka Medical Centre, Iluka WA provides general practice care for families and adults in Iluka, Burns Beach, Currambine, Kinross, Ocean Reef and Perth's northern suburbs.

References and support services

  1. Martin LA, Neighbors HW, Griffith DM. The experience of symptoms of depression in men vs women. JAMA Psychiatry. 2013;70(10):1100–1106.
  2. Cavanagh A, Wilson CJ, Kavanagh DJ, Caputi P. Differences in the expression of symptoms in men versus women with depression. Harvard Review of Psychiatry. 2017;25(1):29–38.
  3. Australian Institute of Health and Welfare. Mental health and suicide prevention information for Australia.
  4. Lifeline Australia: 13 11 14, 24/7 crisis support.
  5. Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636.
  6. MensLine Australia: 1300 78 99 78.
  7. Emergency services: 000 if there is immediate danger.
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